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by Ben Carter in


On Wednesday morning, some of the first people I sent texts to were Geoff and Derek, friends Iā€™ve made through Douglass Boulevard Christian Church

ā€œI have always viewed DBCC as an important presence in our community and an important voice in the conversation,ā€ I said. ā€œNow, 'important' has changed to 'necessary.' We have a lot of work to do.ā€

I said that on our Slack channel, because, you know, we fancy. 

Since then, a few of my friends have expressed a desire to connect or reconnect with a faith community after the election. And, at church this morning, I noticed a dramatic increase in visitors (from our usual 2-3 to 9 or 10; so, dramatic for us). 

I think there are three things (at least) animating this interest in faith communities despite the reality that Americans are not really "joiners" anymore. We keep our social commitments loose and the number of groups who can lay claim to our precious free time pretty low, but still...let's talk about faith with the orange visage of Donald Trump on the horizon rising like a terrible tropical sun. 

First, it is disorienting and scary to see your friends and neighbors be willing to elevate ā€œeconomic issuesā€ above things like, say, basic human decency, not watering the seeds of hate in our country, and not grabbing women by their pussies. ā€œBut, wait,ā€ we are thinking, ā€œI thought religious freedom and racial equality and not committing sexual assault were things everybody has agreed on for decades.ā€ Apparently not. Or, at least, we learned Tuesday that huge numbers of Americans (like, tens of millions!) are willing to tolerate a little wink-and-nod racism and a lot of fearmongering about Mexicans and Muslims and refugees if we think America isnā€™t winning anymore or enough. 

I think it's natural to want to orient ourselves in anticipation of President Trump. And, for centuries and for many of us as kids, church was where we have gone to get moral guidance and clarity. Not to mention providing a community of people who can hold us up and hold us accountable and be our friends. (Meanwhile, many people at my church were hurt by the faith traditions in which they were raised, so I don't want to ignore the very real fact that "church" has also been a source of hurt rather than solace in for many.)

Many of us feel like we are on the precipice of a long national gaslighting. We are already being told, ā€œ[Insert one of a dozen odious, cruel, or unconstitutional policy proposals] will never happen.ā€ ā€œHe didnā€™t really say that.ā€ ā€œHe didnā€™t really mean that.ā€ ā€œNow is the time to come together.ā€ 

Listen: Iā€™m never, ever going to ā€œcome togetherā€ with the KKK. And, Iā€™m not going to support a President who stillā€”stillā€”hasnā€™t denounced the hundreds of acts of violence and intimidation that have been perpetrated in his name since his victory on Tuesday night. 

People: this is just gaslighting. 

And, when we're being gaslit by the soon-to-be Commander-in-Chief, I think it is natural to want to gather with other people and be like, ā€œIā€™m not crazy, right? Like, it is still important to show compassion for the dispossessed and to try to heal the hurting, right?ā€  Like, "Donald Trump totally said he wanted more countries, not fewer, to have nukes, right?"

RIGHT. 

Second, I think there is a growing realization in the wake of Donald Trumpā€™s candidacy, hurtful, divisive statements, irresponsible silences, and his ultimate election that, ā€œOMG, we have so much work to do.ā€ And, combined with that first realization is its corollary impulse: ā€œI donā€™t want to work alone.ā€ I know this is how I feel about it, for sure. DBCC gives me events to go to, actions I can take toward living a life of faith and conviction.

As I said in the only sermon Iā€™ve had the chance to give

This faith community gives me, us, the foundation and opportunity to start doing somethingā€”anythingā€”toward living a faithful life. And, more importantly for me, gives me role models to emulate, people every day modeling what faithā€”an active faith, a heroic faith, not some middling, weak sauce faith; what a courageous faithā€”looks like in the world.

When I come to church, when I go to events, when I read the emails, hereā€™s what I see: people working to expand access to healthy, local foods, people welcoming the outsider in. Since I have been here, this church has been an example in Louisville and around the nation of a community that says, ā€œThere is no them and us, in and out, cools, dorks, your side, my side. There is only we, us, together.ā€

Most recently, you all have worked to make a home and a welcome for Syrian refugees and for a lesbian couple outed against their will who canā€™t safely return to their home country anymore. Think about that. You have made a home for two families who had no home and a welcome in a foreign land to people who have lost everything.

I see our choir providing encouragement, comfort, solace, and beauty with a song. People performing thousands of selfless acts each year to make this campus nicer, more efficient; people working to make our community fairer, greener; to make sure everyone has access to the same opportunities, the same justice. I see people visiting the sick, the lonely, the inconvenient.

Sometimes, thereā€™s a church. I wonā€™t say a heroic church, because whatā€™s a hero? But, sometimes thereā€™s a church that opens its doors wide and says, ā€œCome inside. Those weights look heavy. Weā€™ll take those for you. Welcome.ā€

Church, after Tuesday, seems not just important, but necessary to many of us and Āæmaybe? relevant and potentially useful once again for many more.

Third, and I have the least to say about this, I think when people are feeling out of control, it is comforting to believe that there is a Larger Planā„¢ļø being executed by a Higher Power. As I have said before, this kind of faith is hard for me, but I think it is part of the renewed interest for some people in finding a faith community.  

Now that Iā€™ve outlined why people might be interested in engaging or re-engaging with a faith community, I want to be clear about something: Iā€™m not writing this essay to invite you to Douglass Boulevard Christian Church or suggest that DBCC is right for you, specifically. (Though you are invited, of course.)

Most of the people reading this arenā€™t in Louisville (though we do have a podcast of the sermons šŸ˜‰ and the one from today is a great place to start) and there are other options for those who are. Sarah goes to St. William Church, a #hyperlegit Catholic Church in Old Louisville. I have friends at Highland Pres and Highland Baptist and know them to be welcoming, compassionate communities of faith that act on their faith and conviction, too. And, though I've never heard him preach, Rev. Bruce Williams of Bates Memorial gave a speech earlier this year that I will never, ever forget. 

Instead, this is just to say that Donald Trumpā€™s election to be President of the United States is baffling and frightening thing. On Wednesday morning, I was glad as hell to have a church community to reach out to, to SMDH alongside, and who I knew would double-down on its commitments to the poor, the marginalized, the fearful and oppressed.

This is just to say that all across the country there are churches and mosques and synagogues and meditation centers working damn hard to do justice, love kindness, and walk humbly with our God. That is, places of worship who are doing their best to deliver justice to the oppressed, comfort those in pain, feed those who are hungry. Places of welcome. Places that are way less concerned about "saving your soul" than they are figuring out how the refugee family is going to get to their doctors' appointments on Friday. 

If you are feeling an impulse toward connecting with a community of faith, you might be surprised in 2016 by what you find. (At DBCC, youā€™ll find at least one member who cusses more than he probably should.)

If the Jesus that resonates with you is the one who told the parable of the Good Samaritan, the one who turned over the moneychangersā€™ tables in the temple, the one who told his followers to invite the poor, crippled, lame, and blind to dinner, well, youā€™re not alone.

There are, literally, every day, people being beaten in the streets by Trump-inspired thugs. There are still moneychangersā€™ tables that need upending. And, there people waiting for invitations to dinner all around us. 

Our neighbors' wounds wonā€™t bind themselves. We are the Samaritans they have been waiting for. The tables are too heavy for just one person. Andā€”letā€™s be realā€”Iā€™m a terrible cook.

These communities of faith need you to help them do their urgent work of loving the forgotten and welcoming the disregarded just as you might be thinking that you need them. 

Thereā€™s plenty of work to be done. Joyfully and together.  

Here is a gratuitous pic of my beautiful family. 

Here is a gratuitous pic of my beautiful family.